Maybe You Shouldn't Date

Most of the people I know are married or are getting married, but as for myself and and a couple of my girlfriends the right guy has yet to be found. Discussions with them and reading those dating posts on Facebook have brought me here to rant.

If you are out in the dating world and you can't be honest with the person you're seeing as to whether you like them or not, which is mainly shown through action - behavior when together, communication (text and/or calls), then you are not mature enough to date. At all. Period. If you're still seeking out rando people then perhaps your dating profile (if you have one) should state that you are looking for just a hook up. A unattached, never communicate again - except maybe for more 'ahem' - STD riddled sex.
Do not seek out men/women looking for a real, honest, trusting and hopefully lasting relationship.
If you are looking for the above however, and you find yourself with someone you're becoming less enthusiastic about then do not just stop responding to their calls, texts, social media messages, e mail, etc...that's the chicken shit way out. You justify it by just feeling annoyed by their out reaches to you, rolling your eyes at the notifications on your phone before hitting the sleep button and returning it to your pocket/purse. Meanwhile, this other person is left wondering what the hell is going on. At times they'll feel angry wondering why you're such an asshole/bitch suddenly because let's face, last time you were together you probably gave no indication that you weren't feeling it. Other times they'll feel sad wondering what they did wrong. If you're feeling that way, you did nothing wrong except for getting involved with an immature coward. Listen, not everyone is going to be your cup of tea, even if it started out nice. You get to know someone better and sometimes you realize they aren't for you. That's cool. What's not cool is dropping off the face of the planet because you can't manage to be a man/woman and tell this person, nicely, that you'd make better friends or that there's a lack of chemistry on your end. Yes, it is going to suck. Typically people don't like to hurt others and yes, sometimes the other person will not thank you politely and walk away, but will cry, scream and/or throw a tantrum. It doesn't matter, you owe them that honesty. It's the ripping off the band aid way. Slinking off into the abyss, dropping all communication is the slow agonizing way of eventually letting someone know you don't give a shit about them.

I did this on a first date recently. It got to the end of the night, we're standing at our cars and he asks the, "so can I call you again" question. I took a beat and said, "I don't think so". I explained how I knew now that he wasn't a fit for me. In this case, he only offered a single rebuttal then realizing it was futile, asked that I text when I had made it safely home and left. I did text him upon my return home and thanked him for the evening. He did the same and that was that. Granted this was an easy one date shoot down and once you've been seeing someone for a while it gets a little more complicated, but all the more reason to care enough for that persons feelings to be up front with them.

Coffee Break Bitch

May I take a moment to rant?

Good, thanks.

One of my bosses is a baby. He has to have everything done for him and what makes it worse is he's a procrastinator. He treats his wife, from what I can tell from phone conversations and when she's come in, like crap. He's always in a hurry to get off the phone with her even before he's picked up the receiver. "I'm working", he says. What he means is I'm on facebook, you tube looking up stupid videos to show my colleagues, going to the gym, eating, etc. I wonder how he is at home with her and their daughters. He puts things off and expects everyone else to run around in cramped time doing his bidding. He annoys me in these phases.

There is a woman in our office today, and not an old lady mind you, perhaps late 30's, who reeks!!! She has on the most hideous perfume and she has submerged herself in it!! I can't breathe. They left the conference room door open so when I took in some stuff, I closed the door. Procrastinator immediately went in said door and left it open thus emitting this hideous odor into the rest of the office. Would it look odd for me to suddenly get up and close it again?
I sort of understand old people not being able to smell nearly at all so they squirt way more than necessary their perfume/cologne (why a child, grandchild, super market clerk hasn't informed them of their stench is beyond me), but a younger woman??? And why hasn't her husband, children, co-workers complained to her that she not only wears too much perfume, but that the scent is in fact horrid!?!

That's it! I'm going to start informing people of their odor. It's for their own good and for man kinds good, for their noses at least. This stinky woman annoys me.

Another guy in our office who has no backbone and directs all of his calls to voicemail, washes his hands randomly. Some suggest he has OCD, but it's odder than that. After having used the restroom in which there is a perfectly working sink and paper towels he will head to the kitchen to wash his hands! Why? The soap is the same! Is it a difference of brown paper towels v kitchen paper towels? It's not just after the bathroom. He'll get up from his desk and go "rinse" his hands. I say rinse because he has no time to actually wash them as he's only running the faucet for a second. So I'm ruling out OCD and suggesting crazy. What he does sitting behind his desk that he feels he needs to "rinse" his hands suddenly, scares me. Psycho hand "rinser" annoys me.

I feel a little better now. My nose is still suffering however.